Courtship can be defined as the relationship between two people who have decided to get married. The plan of God is that once a man enters into you (sexual intercourse) he is never going to do so to any other and he will be bonded to you forever as your husband and the father of your kids. One of the major factors that cut off divine strength (the only assurance that it will survive the storms of life) from a courtship is nothing else but sin.
And in this regard, sin would mean overstepping God’s boundary for the unmarried. For example, it would be sin to be sexually involved with a fiancé because that meat is not for the “promising to wed”. The word “sin” may have different weights and meaning to you. 1 John 5:17 says, “Every wrong is sin.” So how can we avoid doing that? We believe the following tips would help.
The beginning matters: The very first cure is to verify the source of the relationship. A relationship that was constituted and established outside divine instruction can never fulfill divine injunctions. You cannot start something in the palace of lustful desire and expect god to keep it pure. How can? Stop employing God to actualize your self sponsored projects. If your source is wrong, the only remedy is to pull it down and let God source for a partner for you. The remaining points are only useful when the source is right (i.e. God).
Be sensitive to your spiritual states: Do everything within your power to ensure that both of you are in good terms with God at all times. Be concerned about his attitude to prayer and studying god’s word. Only a man that is currently dead to sin can be classified “safe to court” so constantly check him out as well as yourself.
